Helpful Hints For The Phlegmatic In Your Life
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Special Things That Significant Others Can Do For The Phlegmatic
- Do not force a Phlegmatic person to socialize. People drain their energy reserves.
- Share in their decisions and be willing to accept part of the responsibility for the consequences.
- Show them they are loved and appreciated by using only a moderate amount of physical attention and doing special things for them.
- Do not force Phlegmatics to take on full responsibility for someone else.
- Understand their limited energy reserves and do not push them beyond that level.
- Find special ways to keep them involved in deep personal relationships.
- Be the aggressor in deep relationships.
- Do not become angry and hostile because of their unwillingness to initiate affection.
- Recognize that their wry, cutting sense of humor is only a defense mechanism to protect themselves and their low energy levels.
What the Phlegmatic Can Do To Help Themselves
- Find employment where they can undertake tedious tasks without being required to interact with people for long periods of time.
- Maintain a proper balance of diet, exercise, work, and relaxation to insure proper energy balance.
- Learn to show deep, tender feelings in ways that are comfortable and others can understand.
- Be inspired to do something about the injustice they see.
- Be inspired to stay involved in life.
- Be inspired to stay involved with the deep relationships in their lives.
- Set activity guidelines to keep from sleeping their lives away.
- Control their critical attitude about others.
- Be more willing to make sacrifices for others.
- Learn to be more flexible and less stubborn.
Behavior Changes To Bring A Phlegmatic Closer To God
- Learn to interact with God and Christ as they would any other surface relationship.
- Learn to inspire themselves to do something about the injustices they see.
- Learn that submission to God unlocks potential.
- Learn to inspire themselves to be more open and loving with the Lord.
- Learn to make decisions according to the Will of God and look to Him to defend them.
- Learn to submit to the Will of God in order to lessen stubbornness.
- Learn that only through expending energy and becoming deeply involved with personal relationships can they reach maturity. Phlegmatics have a tendency to deal with their personal relationships with Christ in the same way they do any other deep relationship, being spectators and not getting too deeply involved.
- Learn to see the rights and feelings of others according to the Word of God. Phlegmatics will unthinkingly make humorous remarks about the rights and feeling of others.
- Learn to depend on the opinions of God, not the opinions of people.